What about your friends?

Despite what many people say....
Everyone yearns for the one friend that is reliable, caring, and unquestionably genuine.
A friend is someone who you share a healthy relationship with. A healthy, balancing relationship.

Over the past years, I've had my share of friends.
The ones you allow to stay over/ live at your house, eat your food, wear your clothes, borrow your make up--and you don't mind because you're "friends".
The ones you pay for to eat, buy drinks for, get their nails & eyebrows done because they don't ever have the money.
The one who's eyes you wipe & sob stories you listen to because you genuinely care about them even though its 5am & you have an exam at 8.
The ones you lend money to, that never pay you back, but you trusted would.
The ones that---well, you get the picture!

Those people?
Yea, ummm...not the healthy friendships I'm talking about.

The one thing that boggles my mind is the inconsiderate, ungrateful, completely disturbing behavior of these individuals. How can you mistreat someone who treated you like family when your family went Houdini on you?
How the hell does that even work?

The icing on the cake is when they act as if they don't know what they did wrong and they sincerely believe that they were right about what they did and the way they treated you.
GET OUT OF HERE. Are you serious?? It never occurred to you that you are selfish, overbearing, needy, a nagger, a leach, a pain, ungrateful...etc? Sure it has. It has to have crossed your mind at one point in time.

My take on the situation?

I suppose most people do not know how to have healthy relationships simply because they've never been in a healthy relationship before. Not with family, friends, lovers--no one. Thus, they live life with a distorted vision of friendship. Their expectations for friends are unrealistic. Then you have those that don't care at all about their behavior and do it simply because they want to. Sounds silly, I know. But think about it. Who even borrows money or something from someone and genuinely forgets? No one. You either remember to return it, show gratitude, or act as if it never happened. That's what those individuals do. They act as if it never happened.

I've learned to let go of those cancerous relationships. You can't save everyone and you can't make people kind, honest and trustworthy. Everyone gets a cancerous friend in the lifetime and I don't know about everyone else, but I'm tired of being superwoman.

Neither my heart nor my pocketbook is big enough!