Promiscuity

How ironic...I wrote about being promiscuous a few days ago and Tyra Banks had an episode today about being promiscuous and how troubling it can be for a young lady's future.

There was a 14 year old girl on there that had sex to feel better about herself.She brought her mother on the show to share her secrets and you can tell her mother was beyond overwhelmed and hurt. She had no idea what was going on and it seemed to crush her. Not that I didn't know about how teens are pressured to have sex, but apparently pressure for sex has gotten worse.

14? I couldn't believe my ears. Fourteen? I understand her mothers distress. I'm not a mother, but I understand the importance of treating and knowing that ones body is priceless. As much as the young girl thought that she was "in control" (<----funny, she used that too!), she was far from being in control. Promiscuity rarely starts when young ladies are 19, 20, 21. It's not something that happens RANDOMLY. It's learned and practiced behavior. It's something that people have been doing for a long time. Long enough to think that it's working out, long enough to think that nothing is wrong with what they're doing. Different kinds of emotions ran through me as I watched this young girl. I have never had what most would call casual sex. It's never been that serious to me and I dont think will ever be. But then again, I wasn't raised to really think of sex like that and never had the urge to be sexual. Personally, I always wanted to be that brilliant, beautiful wife who explored sex with her husband. Not to say that I haven't made the mistake of thinking that premarital sex was ok, but I'm 21 now. Of course, thats not old but, it's old enough to have it together in that area.

Back to this 14 year old girl. She was talking about how much pressure she gets from other people and how she didn't really want to do it but she didn't want people to dislike her. I wanted her to know that no matter what she did or didn't do, some people will disliker her. There's only so much you can do and after that, its out of your hands. It takes a very weak person to dislike someone for silly reasons and it takes a stronger person to let things go and live their own life. She's 14, life hasn't even started yet, lol!! Bottom line, its foolish and a waste of energy and time. You dont want to have sex, dont have sex. Who made them the sex police? lol...besides, good girls sit like: X(closed legs) and bad girls sit like this: I I(open legs)

lmao. Okay, okay....but serious though, do whatever you makes you happy because at the end of the day, you must sleep with yourself. Twisted individuals will believe what they want whether or not you're doing it. Sex should be cherished. I'm glad she realized that at such a young age. =)

Makes me happy.